Współczesny kryzys ojcostwa

Kornas-Biela, Dorota

Współczesny kryzys ojcostwa

dc.contributor.author	Kornas-Biela, Dorota
dc.date.accessioned	2023-06-13T07:26:40Z
dc.date.available	2023-06-13T07:26:40Z
dc.date.issued	2001
dc.description	One of the trends in our civilisation of the past century has been a crisis of fatherhood. It consisted in both lack of the father in the family and in depreciation of fatherhood. Both these symptoms of this crisis are dramatic; however, it seems that too little significance given to fatherhood has produced especially negative results for the child, his mother and for the society. At the same time 'working out’ a new model of father by men was a reaction to the crisis of fatherhood; and in the media we see propagating contrary models of fatherhood. Hence it is difficult to formulate general opinions about what contemporary fathers 'are like’. In many homes the father is an ‘extinct species’, physically or psychologically absent. Manifold consequences of this state have been investigated and described in detail in relevant literature. In many families the father is present, but in the character of a 'male mother', useful aunt', helping the mother to perform her nursing-educational functions towards the child. The division of the roles that treats the parents as partners has degraded the father from the position of "the head of the family', the most important family manager, protector, 'bulwark of defence', breadwinner, authority, the one who makes the decisions, executor, judge. The crisis of fatherhood also consists in under-appreciating his presence; in the ever more accepted statement that the father is not absolutely necessary for the children. He may be useful for some time or sometimes, his presence may be treated as convenient, or even desirable, especially if he does not get in the way and is helpful. He may be handy then as a complement to the mother, but the ‘institution’ of grandmother, or kindergarten, electromechanical appliances or a good neighbour can just as well replace him. Reducing the role of the father as the one who brings up his child unfortunately is expressed in general acceptance of the role of 'the second daddy’ when the mother gets married for the second time. The term ‘reconstructed family’ suggests that the absent natural father may be easily substituted by another one. The contraception mentality (‘castrated’ man) and making abortion legal (tragic fatherhood) are especially destructive for the man’s and the father’s identity. An extreme example of pushing the idea of fatherhood to the margin - unfortunately one that gains broad social acceptance - is father-inseminator - a man giving his sperm to the sperm bank. At the same time making sterilisation, abortion, artificial insemination and adoption by homosexual couples legal relieves the man from the responsibility for biological fatherhood, or even denies it if he claims it. In public reception, if a man does not take responsibility for the woman and child, he risks disapproval. A man as ‘an irresponsible guy’ is a father’s damaged identity. The image of virility and fatherhood broken into pieces results in the feeling of being lost and in looking blindly for one’s own identity. It is more and more difficult for the man to find the essence of virility and the essence of fatherhood, it is difficult for him to say precisely what virility is, what fatherhood is, who he is and who he should be, what features he should have, how he should behave, what he should do, what his duties and privileges are. Not only the man has lost his identity. Also the community has lost it. Girls do not know what they should expect or what they may expect from the boy, wives - from the husbands, and mothers from the sons. The image of the man and father is blurred, his duties are not clear, his responsibility is limited and vague. And if virility and fatherhood is lost, so is femininity and motherhood. Contemporary men seem to be a very heterogeneous group, polarised in their fatherly attitudes - some behave like ’fathers in a crisis’ described in the above article, and others derive inexpressible joy and a wealth of experiences from fatherhood; we see a pregnant daddy’, ’a daddy having a baby’, ‘a daddy on maternity leave’. The child needs not just the daddy, but both parents, their mutual love, without which the father's love is crippled, insufficient, and often hurting. What enriches the child most is the deep bond between the parents, a strong communion of these people, that is the model of all relations with other people and a point of reference in his relations with God.	pl
dc.identifier.citation	Oblicza ojcostwa, red. D. Kornas-Biela, Lubin 2001, s. 171-192	pl
dc.identifier.isbn	83-7306-044-8
dc.identifier.uri	http://hdl.handle.net/20.500.12153/5149
dc.language.iso	pl	pl
dc.publisher	Towarzystwo Naukowe KUL	pl
dc.subject	ojciec	pl
dc.subject	kryzys ojcostwa	pl
dc.subject	męska tożsamość	pl
dc.subject	brak ojca	pl
dc.subject	doświadczenie aborcji przez ojca	pl
dc.subject	dawca nasienia	pl
dc.subject	wzorce ojcostwa	pl
dc.subject	father	pl
dc.subject	fatherhood crisis	pl
dc.subject	male identity	pl
dc.subject	fatherlessness	pl
dc.subject	father's abortion experience	pl
dc.subject	sperm donor	pl
dc.subject	fatherhood patterns	pl
dc.title	Współczesny kryzys ojcostwa	pl
dc.type	info:eu-repo/semantics/bookPart	pl